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Thoughts for the day September 30,2015

Be at peace today,

Find lots to laugh about

Give and receive love

It is that simple


Your Daily Now Moment!

We all wash dishes and for most of us it's a hassle.

What if today, as you perform this everyday task, you set the intention of connecting the sensations of the water with the smell of the soap?

Don't worry about how fast you get them done, just wash one dish at a time, holding it as if it were a rare and precious gem.

Elisha Goldstein, PhD


Your Daily Now Moment!
"Realize that this very body, with its aches and its pleasures ... is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive."
~ Pema Chodron

"There is no enlightenment outside of daily life."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh

"After the ecstasy, the laundry."
~ Jack Kornfield

Elisha Goldstein, PhD


The best you can do for anyone is to thrive fully and be willing to explain to anyone who asks how it is that you are thriving, and what it is that you've discovered—and then, just relax and trust that all truly is well.
Excerpted from: Buffalo, NY on May 20, 2003

Our Love,
Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)

Thoughts for the day October 1,2015

Your Daily Now Moment!

Take this moment to put your hands on your heart.

Feel the beat of life within you for the next minute.

Today, bring this openheartedness into the way you relate to yourself and others.

See what happens as you use your heart to prime your mind for good in relationships.

Elisha Goldstein, PhD


The standard of success in life isn't the things. It isn't the money or the stuff — it is absolutely the amount of joy you feel.
Excerpted from: Lincroft, NJ on October 15, 1996

Our Love,
Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)


From Tony Robbins

The "F" word you're trying to ignore
Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself, not a gift you give someone else

So many people today yearn for happiness, joy, and love ­– seemingly, to no avail.

We live in a world with so many choices, and resources, and freedoms, and so much technology, yet so many of us seem to live lives that are filled with MORE stress and LESS enjoyment than ever in history. Why is this? What are we missing?

There are, of course, many ways to try to answer this question, but having worked with more than 50 million people in 100 countries around the world, I can tell you that there are patterns of perception in people. That is, there are ways of looking at and labeling our experience of other people and of the events that occur in our lives that cause so many to feel frustrated and constricted with life.

Still, I have met a few amazing people over the years who consistently experience a life filled with abundance and purpose. They are those who lead meaningful lives, and they are truly, genuinely happy (and it’s rarely, if ever, because their lives are any easier than yours or mine).

The remarkable thing is, that no matter how blessed a life may be with health, wealth, family, close friends, opportunities to learn and grow, and a chance to give back, the number one pattern that denigrates, and, in some cases, completely destroys people’s lives, is expectations.

That’s it; that’s the catch.


If you really want to be stressed, all you have to do is expect life and all the people in it, to think, behave, speak, and act the way you have predetermined they ”should.” If you hang on to your expectations, I can guarantee you plenty of stress and pain.

Human beings all have different values, beliefs, fears, habits, and needs. That’s the reason why even the most kind and loving person you know can ­– in a moment – be insensitive, mean-spirited, or at least unconscious of the impact they’re having on someone else.

So, if the only way you can be happy is for everyone to act or communicate every moment in ways that meet your ideal expectations, you best plan on a life of continuous disappointment and pain.

What’s the solution to being disappointed all the time? Trust that people do the best they can with the resources they have. When you experience someone doing something unconscious, it’s helpful to remember that it’s rarely ever about you, and almost always just that person feeling so much stress and pressure that they have literally activated their survival mode. People in survival mode can go blind in a moment. It happens to the very best of us. It’s part of being human. We can’t expect anyone to be perfect all the time.

So, I’ve found the best formula for a great life is to:

Trade your expectations for appreciation. The moment you do, your whole world transforms.

You know how it feels when people expect you to give them something, it takes away the gift of spontaneous surprise and the joy you’re able to feel from giving. By contrast, when YOU appreciate whatever life or people bring you, you are choosing to guarantee openness and invite the joy that young children have … before we spoil them with giant birthday parties and create unrealistic expectations that life and people all exist to meet their desires and needs.

So much anger, frustration, rage, hurt, depression, and sadness burns from expecting people to be loving, generous, courteous, compassionate, proactive, present, supportive, caring, etc.

I have found that sometimes people will be all of these things, if they feel secure in their life, or, if you are lucky to know one of those people with a habitually bright disposition. Just maybe you are lucky enough to have these kind experiences with close friends who love you and have the high standards to consistently act this way. But, the larger the group of people you interact with, the greater the chance that you’ll receive a variety of responses and if your well being is based on those acquaintances acting a certain way back to you, you simply will not have much well-being.

This brings me to the power of the F-words… Forgiveness and Faith.

Other than perhaps Gratitude (which is the underpinning of both) no two human emotions have a greater impact on the quality of your life. We will always carry anger and hurt in our hearts as long as we have expectations of other people and life conditions we can’t control. Forgiveness is really an understanding that the only person you hurt when you’re upset (no matter how justified it may be) is yourself. Even if everything in you wants to blame someone else, consider giving yourself the gift of forgiving your expectations.


I met Nelson Mandela in the early 1990s and was so moved by his ability to be imprisoned unjustly and yet come out and forgive the very people who took away a quarter-a-century of his life! I asked him how he “survived” those years. He told me he didn’t survive; he “prepared.” He prepared to forgive so that if, in fact, he did survive, he would be able to let go and move on. He knew that only in letting go would he be able to lead himself and others to transform his beloved home of South Africa.

He is often quoted as saying, “Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear… Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies.” He said, “As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew that if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.”

Nelson Mandela understood fundamentally that forgiveness is not a gift we give others, it is a gift we give ourselves. It is true freedom from stories of our past and from the pain, rage, and anger that can eat away at our mind and body.

Gandhi, Oprah, Nelson Mandela are not the only people capable of this kind of radical forgiveness. The truth is: we all are. When we raise our standard, we free ourselves.

Ask yourself: What if everything in life really did happen for a reason? What if everything really did have a purpose and it always served us in the long run? What if life was always happening FOR us, not TO us? What if even the pain and problems had a higher purpose in the growth and evolution of our souls?

If you were to look back on your life, I would be willing to bet you’ve had some painful experiences that you would never want to experience again, AND yet, some of those horrible past experiences – you may already have realized ­ that while you would never want to experience them again, thank God you did because it caused you to develop a depth of insight or caring, or a level of inner strength that to this day shapes who you are and the greatness of what you can give to others.

When you tap into this level of consciousness, you have found a higher meaning in your past pain. You didn’t just forgive. Your faith moved you beyond the experience itself and through the higher purpose you found, you freed and strengthened your spirit.

I can tell you, it’s the people who give up the story of what happened to them and find a higher meaning who are the ones who lead, grow, give, and experience life’s deepest joy and fulfillment.

Over the last couple of years, we all have witnessed insane tragedy in school and public shootings. I have gratefully befriended two people who have personally experienced this pain and I’ve found that through their faith in a deeper meaning, they have both found ways to forgive and use what has happened to them to help others.

One of my friends is Ashley Moser who was in the theatre in Aurora, Colorado the day the Batman movie shooting occurred. The gunman killed her six-year-old daughter right in front of her, and then he shot Ashley in the stomach, paralyzing her, and killing her unborn child.

My other dear friend is Nick Walczak, who was a victim in the Chardon High School shooting in Ohio. He was just sixteen when he was shot in the back and paralyzed from the waist down.

I brought Ashley and Nick to one of my UPW seminars and they each did incredibly well. (Nick even walked across fire on his hands!!) These two have experienced something way beyond physical pain; this level of atrocity is truly spiritual pain. Spiritual pain is a level of injustice you can’t even comprehend, but if you can make it through, you develop spiritual strength. That strength gives you the ability to reach other people. That strength compels you to help others.

So I asked Nick and Ashley if they’d join me in Newtown, Connecticut after the tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary. We went to go visit with these families that had been through hell and they got the chance to visit with my friends. The families in Newtown had the horrific experience of losing a child, and yet here was a woman, Ashley, who had lost two children, and her own ability to walk, and who was sentenced to great physical pain, and yet here she was, healing and helping others.

We all think our problems are so huge, but there is always someone out there who is being asked to bear even more. To be truly free and happy in this life, we must give up our expectations. Our biggest problem may very well be the belief that we are not supposed to have problems! Our power is in our problems as they unleash our resourcefulness and cause us to grow in order to respond consciously and compassionately to them. Radical forgiveness and faith in guidance or a higher meaning in our experience is the answer.

Research shows biochemical changes in blood flow to different parts of the brain when we are angry and conversely, when we choose to forgive. Numerous studies prove that hosting anger and chronic emotional distress erodes physical health, alters cardiovascular homeostasis, impoverishes sleep quality, and stimulates the production of stress-related hormones like cortisol. Conversely, forgiveness promotes wellbeing, cardiovascular health, and may increase survival rates.

So how do we do it? How do we find it in our hearts? Channel a role model like Nelson Mandela or Ashley Moser. Or, tap a time in the past when you found forgiveness and choose to unleash the healing power again today.

When did you forgive even before someone said they were sorry? When can you choose to forgive without requiring an apology, or any conditions, or even a change of heart? Where can you own a higher meaning and finally set yourself free? How can you just let it go?

It all goes back to trading in those useless expectations. And one way to get in the habit of this is through activating gratitude. I make a daily habit of finding 10 minutes to be grateful for as many little things as I can think of every single day. What’s interesting is that we are incapable of being angry and grateful simultaneously. So get grateful in a hurry! Cultivating this emotion daily creates the “wiring” so that it’s easy to forgive for what others get stuck and stressed over. Feel grateful more often over little things and I can promise you this will result in the ability to forgive quickly and easily and free yourself of pain.

Finally, if you’re still not forgiving then you are STILL blaming something outside yourself. Which is normal. Most people are not good at forgiveness but they’re good at blame. It’s human nature. So I suggest we put our strength to good use. If you’re going to blame someone for all your pain, then you’ve got to blame them for all your joy, too. If you’re going to blame God for all your tragedies, you’ve got to blame God for all your gifts. If you’re going to blame your parents for being so terrible, you’ve got to blame them for the strength it gave you later on.

My mother’s alcoholism and prescription drug addiction caused her to lash out in ways that hurt physically, mentally, and emotionally. She loved me and my brother, and sister…it was not her intent to hurt…she was dealing with her own internal demons. But if she had been the mother I thought she “should” have been, than I never would have developed the strength and insights that helped me to become the man I am today. I would not have had the hunger and drive to touch millions of lives. I “blame her” for giving me those gifts and the life I am so grateful for today! That’s what it means to blame effectively. It’s an illusion that someone accepting blame, or offering an apology is going to solve or fix what actually happened. The only thing that’s going to solve things is deciding to free yourself from the story of what happened to you and take hold of the truth that all things are made new through faith in a higher purpose.

So pick someone in your life today and go blame them for their impact on your life. Blame them intelligently and consciously. Tell them all the good you have because of the “gift” they gave you. This kind of blame makes forgiveness automatic because instead of expecting anything, you are appreciating their impact. Try it for a week, and use the F words of Forgiveness & Faith (and their partner Gratitude) to set yourself free. Whatever that thing is you’re hanging onto, just let it go and find the good.

Remember: What’s wrong is always available; so is what’s right. Growth, joy, new insights, meaning, happiness, freedom, and love are just a little faith and forgiveness away.

Live Strong and Live with Passion! Blessings to you! Tony

Thoughts for the day October 2,2015

“I want to cultivate a deep sense of gratitude, of groundedness, of enough, even while I’m longing for something more. The longing and the gratitude, both. I’m practicing believing that God knows more than I know, that he sees what I can’t, that he’s weaving a future I can’t even imagine from where I sit this morning.”
― Shauna Niequist

“The more you go with the flow of life and surrender the outcome to God, and the less you seek constant clarity, the more you will find that fabulous things start to show up in your life.”
― Mandy Hale, The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass


Rather than wanting to hold to the past longer and slow things down and stop the aging process — just revel in the power of now! You can't stop time, and you won't stop the recycling process that is taking place upon this planet, nor would you want to — but you do not have to suffer the moving through time. Every moment can be more wonderful than the moment before.


Excerpted from: Houston, TX on January 05, 2002

Our Love,
Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)


Your Daily Now Moment!

Take this moment to put your hands on your heart.
Feel the beat of life within you for the next minute.
Today, bring this openheartedness into the way you relate to yourself and others.
See what happens as you use your heart to prime your mind for good in relationships.
Elisha Goldstein, PhD




On this day of your life,
 I believe God wants you to know...

...that you should never be content with so little 
when you can reach out for something big.

Have you ever wondered why so many people settle for so little?
You do not have to place yourself among them.
The world is an abundant place. Abundant with opportunity,
abundant with good fortune, abundant with ideas,
and abundant with love.

Reach into that abundance and take what is rightfully yours.
It is your inheritance, gifted to you by God. Let yourself have it.
Do not fail to reach for it for fear that it will not come to you.
How can it come to you if you do not reach for it?

Do not be content with so little.
Reach, stretch, for something big.

Love,  Your Friend ...





Thoughts for the day October 3, 2015

Your Daily Now Moment!

Pause to perform a 1-minute Check-In and see what your experience is right now:

How does your body feel?

What emotions are present?

Is your mind able to be here or is it distracted and

Whatever the experience is, this is your life -- this is your "being alive" -- in this moment, right now.

Pause occasionally throughout your day, taking a minute to stop along the way.

Elisha Goldstein, PhD

The word for the day Love

“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
― Dr. Seuss

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
― Martin Luther King Jr., A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
Mother Teresa

A thought from Abraham

Any malady in your physical body was a lot longer in coming than it takes to release it.
Excerpted from: Napa, CA on February 27, 1997

Our Love,
Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)

Thoughts for the day October 4, 2015

Your Daily Now Moment!

Take your shoes off and spend one minute feeling the sensation of the floor or earth beneath your feet.

Wherever we are provides us with a "choice point" to bring awareness to that which surrounds us in the moment.


Elisha Goldstein, PhD

We would gather a world forum, we would ask all of the television cameras to come, and this is what we would say: It seems that this act has come in response to other actions. It seems that someone has seen this as a way of sort of leveling the playing field. And it seems to us that if we respond in kind, that all that will happen is it will stir up more of the same — and ensure more of these pockets of disaster happening globally as time goes on. And so, we have decided that we will do the unexpected, and not respond. Not because we think that they are right — but because we do not think that in doing that, we would be right, either.
Excerpted from: Albany, NY on October 04, 2001

Our Love,
Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)bernieongoldenrule

Thoughts for the day October 5, 2015

I want to wish all a beautiful week full of love and healing.

As I move forward in publishing The Messenger, my intention is to present articles that inspire and help you manifest the life you want.

I am still looking for writers in the various catagories listed.

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
― Abraham Lincoln

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Your Daily Now Moment!

Hence, there is a time to go ahead and a time to stay

There is a time to breathe easy and a time to breathe

There is a time to be vigorous and a time to be gentle.

There is a time to gather and a time to release.
~ Lao Tzu (Tao Te Ching verse 29)

Can you see things as they are and let them be all on their own?

Elisha Goldstein, PhD

Wellness that is being allowed—or the wellness that is being denied—is all about the mindset, the mood, the attitude, the practiced thoughts. There is not one exception, in any human or beast; because, you can patch them up again and again, and they will just find another way of reverting back to the natural rhythm of their mind. Treating the body really is about treating the mind. It is all psychosomatic. Every bit of it, no exceptions.
Excerpted from: Philadelphia, PA on May 13, 2002

Our Love,
Esther (and Abraham and Jerry)

Thoughts for the day October 6, 2015

The word for the day is worry.

When I start to worry about the future, I remind myself to turn over the problem to God/Universe. Solutions come when we stop worrying about the problem.



“Do not anticipate trouble, or worry about what may never happen.
Keep in the sunlight.”
― Benjamin Franklin

“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
― Leo Buscaglia

Wayne’s Weekly Wisdom

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.”
Dr. Wayne Dyer

Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don't want.
Excerpted from: Asheville, NC on September 05, 1998

Your Daily Now Moment!

What does it mean to you to live as if it mattered?

Elisha Goldstein, PhD