...it is in the "knowing" that we are limited.
During one of our early morning walks, my dear friend Rev. Kris Collins of the Sactuary for Spiritual Living, discussed with me a seminar she had recently attended. It is an on-going series of weekend Mystery Schools conducted by Jean Houston. As one would expect from such an incredible teacher and mythologist, the weekend was thought-provoking and experiencially rich.
Kris shared that in one of Jean's final exercises, they were asked to choose a partner...and specifically, not to partner with someone who "knew" them.
As it was discovered, it is in the "knowing" that we are limited. For in that knowing, we loose the sense of wonder about ourselves, as well as about others. When we know someone, we construct a mental box that we neatly fit them into.
But, in reality, there is no "cap" placed upon our growth...we are each beings full of potential. That potential lies in wait for us to call upon it, to feed it, to encourage it to undertake the changes which produce growth.
To allow limiting talk from ourselves or from others, underminds the gifts which are being readied to come forth through us.
Can you imagine if, when a baby who had only previously crawled--pulled up and began to take a step--was then faced with parents who said, "What are you doing? You have never walked before. What in the world would make you think that you could do such a thing?" Supposing Baby understood the words, Baby would probably sit down and stop trying...or be very selective where the next steps might be tried out--not wanting to undergo such a barrage of undermining, again.
It is a challenge to try and escape such conditioning and we have each been exposed to it in some form or another. We may have buckled under the onslaught, or been strong enough to look such limited people back in the eye and show them what we were capable of accomplishing. Hurray for you, if you are made of such stuff!
Here are some thoughtful words on "knowing / not- knowing" from The Monkess, webmaster of dailyzen.com, and a selection from the Maverick Sutras.
What do I really know?
Mystery and wonder are intertwined. What we think we know becomes devoid of wonder, and a life without wonder becomes devoid of richness, depth, and of the Way itself. --The Monkess
"Not-knowing is unlimited; knowledge is limited. Not-knowing is the ground of mystery, the land of wonder; a haven to be visited daily. It is the source of creativity, inventiveness, and tranquility all in one. Not-knowing is the only place from which freshness can emerge.
Of all the knowledge you consider "yours," how much is merely the leavings, the transfusions of others? What have you truly learned on your own, through observation, intuition, enquiry? Return to Not-knowing! Rest there a while. Expect nothing. Then emerge gently to view the world with fresh eyes.
This is meditation, rejuvenation, the source of creativity all rolled into one.
--Huang Po, "Maverick Sutras" http://dailyzen.com
To prepare ourselves for any change we want in our lives, we have to be ready to give up the picture we carry of ourselves within our own minds. Use your magic eraser and clean your slate often. Clean it of negative comments and sideway glances and judgements. Allow yourself one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself--a state of just being. A place where you don't have to try and anticipate what others want, or look ahead to the outcome of any situation.
When we can capture this "living in the now," we are actually capable of claiming more of our energy--not wasting it on past guilts and angers, or future worries and what if's. We lay claim to who we are in this moment. We see what is being offered to us, what doors are trying to open, and then as natural as can be, we walk through them in self-exploration.