My journey of personal growth has led me to several realizations regarding the pursuit of happiness - by which I mean true happiness or inner peace.
First of all, I now know that happiness cannot be found by means of pursuit. Chasing happiness only feeds the chase and the resulting misery from never quite reaching the goal which always eludes us, thus perpetuating our self-imposed misery. Just as we achieve one goal, something else seems to go wrong. There’s always something. Everything is changing. Nothing stays the same. Thus life becomes a roller coaster. Just as we reach the top of one hill, we slide down the other side. Therefore, tying our happiness to the outcome of events is an exercise which, at best, reaps only fleeting moments of joy.
Hypnosis, under many different names, has been around since before the Pharaohs. It has been used as a cure all, mystical rite, entertainment, and forbidden magical tool. Hypnosis has been revered and feared in cycle after cycle throughout the centuries. In the 1800's hypnosis gained recognition from the medical profession as a safe anesthesia. But it was time consuming to use and didn't work for everyone. With the advent of ether, hypnosis fell into disuse. Magicians and showmen began using it for entertainment, and hypnosis lost credibility as a therapeutic and medical tool. Some professionals continued to use hypnosis successfully, but mainly it was mystics and spiritual seekers who continued to use hypnosis as a tool for growth and self help. The state of hypnosis often allows a clearer channel to the higher self.
“Fear never goes away.” That’s how my fellow Toastmaster, Christopher, ended an excellent presentation on fear. I don’t know about you, but I found that extremely unsettling. “Fear never goes away.” If that’s true, then we need to find ways of living and working with fear in a positive way. As I see it, this requires three things:
1. First of all, we must recognize the futility of making fear our enemy. If we’re going to live together, we need to welcome it.
2. Secondly, we need to disarm fear by coming to terms with what we’re afraid of.
3. Third and finally, entertain the possibility of incredible success.
The mother of a 15year old boy called me to inquire about the effectiveness of hypnosis. She explained that her son had been having problems in school since he was five years old. He was disobedient, rebellious, hostile and a loner. He had been in counseling for many years, yet seemed to continue to behave inappropriately and unable to get along with anyone.
As he got older his behavior became worse. He was becoming an introvert. He had been expelled from school because of inappropriate behavior with one of his female teachers.
My experience in counseling indicated that a person has to want to change, and hypnosis, a powerful tool, would not be helpful in this case because the young man was already hostile towards counselors and his behavior was getting him attention. I was not very encouraging, although I did tell her that if he ever showed interest in learning self-hypnosis, I would be willing to take him as a client.
By now you are no doubt familiar with the principles of Law of Attraction and Conscious Creation, and have seen or read The Secret—and you are aware of using the power of positively directed thought to improve your life.
But let’s be honest…How often do you remember to apply these? Maybe once or twice a month? Or when you come across something you really want to manifest—so you get busy visualizing? Have you really made it a way of life? Are you impatient to see things become reality, but the slowness of the process is making you crazy?
I just read something that made me stop and take stock. I have always been a rather joyful, somewhat carefree individual. Of late; however, I have become very heavy in my feeling nature and as this is not a familiar place for me, it has been wreaking havoc. I am painfully aware that I have stopped playing. I have stopped enjoying the little things. For instance, until three years ago, I regularly enjoyed a great evening of water bumper cars, go carts and miniature golf – to say nothing of a full day at Magic Mountain (mid-week, of course). I absolutely love roller coasters! There is no such thing for me as too high or too fast! When did I let my guard down? When did I become this serious, joy-less person? How could this have happened to me – a virtual female Peter Pan?
Well, here I am, many moons later, thinking about that day when I almost started my last journey. What led up to my decision to fly off the mountain that day when the wind was not quite right has been a source of reflection for the last 36 years. Finally, at the ripe age of 72, I have enough understanding to write about it.
Two days before that fateful day, I had a great flight. December 28, 1974 was a good day. My friend John and I hiked down to our favorite take-off spot on the south side of Mt. Lukins.
In my last article, I began to talk about compromise and what happens to us when we embark upon that long road that has no real ending, only beginnings. My own particular journey in this regard has been long and painful. I chose for my soul core makeup in this reality to express the ego persona of a female with a masculine gender vibration. This has created quite an interesting complexity for my psyche reconciliation.
This is the first in a series of articles on moving through emotional blackmail during our journey into self-awareness and psychic reconnection. Our life expression challenge, should we choose to accept it, is to learn to work with and incorporate all aspects of our multi-dimensional Self into a complex, yet harmoniously working collective.
The power to fulfill our dreams is within each of us. We alone have the responsibility to shape our lives. When we understand this, we know that nothing, and no one, can deny us greatness. We are the ones pushing ourselves forward or holding ourselves back. The power to succeed or fail is ours alone. --Unknown
Change begins with you. You will change the world by loving yourself, by enjoying life, by making your personal world a dream of heaven.