Last month I turned 42. Just like every year of my life, I had been looking forward to my birthday with giddy anticipation. I just LOVE getting older, there's absolutely nothing I don't adore about it.
Invariably, people gave me surprised stares when I replied to the inevitable: “Oh, is it your birthday?” with an excited: “Yes it is, I'm 42 today!” I suppose it's not the usual thing to do, stating one's age as a woman of the so-called “certain” age. People just omit the number altogether or famously “turn 29” over and over again every year.
The Way is in the Unknowing.*
Some of us have the courage to free ourselves from blind, ignorant unquestioning loyalty to long-held identity-entangled beliefs, and, to stare into the vast abyss of uncertainty which consequently unfolds before us. For me the unraveling began with a belief that God wanted to be known, and would allow me to ask any question I wanted, to explore any path I chose, even if it meant questioning his existence in the pursuit of knowing him personally, deeply, intimately. I could struggle and argue with God, in the tradition of Old Testament prophets like Jeremiah. If God were God indeed, he would withstand the assault of my scrutiny. He would never abandon me. I could leap into the Void, not as a test, but as a yearning to know the truth of him, and he would catch me in his arms.
Have you noticed how hard it is to change? Especially at the beginning of a New Year. After all the emotional turbulence of Christmas, happy or not, plus the realisation of last years resolutions not accompanying you thus far.....
We are conditioned by our past, that is the real reason we find it so hard to change! I come with a country background and we knew that once the fox got into the chicken house, he would come back and kill again and again, until he was killed.
Let’s talk for just a minute about people who are doers in they’re lives and those who are don’ters. Or should we say someone who does, and someone who doesn’t. There really is a big difference between the two.
Sometimes just telling someone that they are a doer or that somebody is a don’t er just isn’t enough. Sometimes it’s too hard for someone who is a don’t to try to do. And the funny thing is about those who always do, they really do all the time.
It was a chilly May morning in 2009 and I took several, very deep breaths and let them go—not the breaths—but several pieces of furniture birthed during my previous life of wife for 33 years.
There I stood in the middle of the yard sale, wearing the artfully painted smile of a recovering Stepford Wife, dispassionately watching as uncaring strangers poked, prodded and pack away belongings left over from my painstakingly crafted, failed fantasy marriage. I waved goodbye and wished my old friends, Cuisinart (™), Capodimante (™) and carved rice bed, well as they waltzed away down the driveway with new partners.
To put it simply, our internal world is our mind. And it is in the mind where we succeed or fail, love or hate and win or lose. Every single physical experience ever lived is the manifestation of what the mind of man has conceived. The mind creates reality and this, in today’s world, is generally referred to as the Law of Attraction.
The concept of the Law of Attraction is continually gaining popularity. In other words, the number of people who are becoming self aware and realizing the importance of their mindset is growing by the day. In a nutshell, the Law of Attraction is ‘that which we tune into, we receive’.
My journey of personal growth has led me to several realizations regarding the pursuit of happiness - by which I mean true happiness or inner peace.
First of all, I now know that happiness cannot be found by means of pursuit. Chasing happiness only feeds the chase and the resulting misery from never quite reaching the goal which always eludes us, thus perpetuating our self-imposed misery. Just as we achieve one goal, something else seems to go wrong. There’s always something. Everything is changing. Nothing stays the same. Thus life becomes a roller coaster. Just as we reach the top of one hill, we slide down the other side. Therefore, tying our happiness to the outcome of events is an exercise which, at best, reaps only fleeting moments of joy.
Hypnosis, under many different names, has been around since before the Pharaohs. It has been used as a cure all, mystical rite, entertainment, and forbidden magical tool. Hypnosis has been revered and feared in cycle after cycle throughout the centuries. In the 1800's hypnosis gained recognition from the medical profession as a safe anesthesia. But it was time consuming to use and didn't work for everyone. With the advent of ether, hypnosis fell into disuse. Magicians and showmen began using it for entertainment, and hypnosis lost credibility as a therapeutic and medical tool. Some professionals continued to use hypnosis successfully, but mainly it was mystics and spiritual seekers who continued to use hypnosis as a tool for growth and self help. The state of hypnosis often allows a clearer channel to the higher self.
“Fear never goes away.” That’s how my fellow Toastmaster, Christopher, ended an excellent presentation on fear. I don’t know about you, but I found that extremely unsettling. “Fear never goes away.” If that’s true, then we need to find ways of living and working with fear in a positive way. As I see it, this requires three things:
1. First of all, we must recognize the futility of making fear our enemy. If we’re going to live together, we need to welcome it.
2. Secondly, we need to disarm fear by coming to terms with what we’re afraid of.
3. Third and finally, entertain the possibility of incredible success.
The mother of a 15year old boy called me to inquire about the effectiveness of hypnosis. She explained that her son had been having problems in school since he was five years old. He was disobedient, rebellious, hostile and a loner. He had been in counseling for many years, yet seemed to continue to behave inappropriately and unable to get along with anyone.
As he got older his behavior became worse. He was becoming an introvert. He had been expelled from school because of inappropriate behavior with one of his female teachers.
My experience in counseling indicated that a person has to want to change, and hypnosis, a powerful tool, would not be helpful in this case because the young man was already hostile towards counselors and his behavior was getting him attention. I was not very encouraging, although I did tell her that if he ever showed interest in learning self-hypnosis, I would be willing to take him as a client.
By now you are no doubt familiar with the principles of Law of Attraction and Conscious Creation, and have seen or read The Secret—and you are aware of using the power of positively directed thought to improve your life.
But let’s be honest…How often do you remember to apply these? Maybe once or twice a month? Or when you come across something you really want to manifest—so you get busy visualizing? Have you really made it a way of life? Are you impatient to see things become reality, but the slowness of the process is making you crazy?