Excerpt from 101 Relationship Myths : How to Stop them from Sabotaging Your Happiness by Tim Ray
When a company is looking for a new employee, candidates usually go through one or more job interviews to determine whether the candidate is the right person for the job. Things like the candidate’s background, educational credentials, and previous work experience are explored in detail. Plus the responsibilities and challenges of the new job as well as company values and vision. The candidate will be asked what he or she can contribute to the company and in return, the company may offer good career advancement potential. Finally there may be negotiations about salary, perks, job training, etc.
So I’ve been thinking, why don’t we evaluate people just as carefully when we’re looking for new partners? Why don’t we invite potential candidates for the job as a new partner to “relationship” interviews and find out whether he or she is the right person for the job!
Not a bad idea – right!
Dr. Vondie’s Top 10 Tips to Help You Find Love
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I thought this would be a good time to share my “Top 10 Tips to Help You Find Love.”
1. Let yourself heal from your last relationship
It takes time to get your bearings and start trusting again. The hardest part is learning to trust yourself again. It helps when you can look back and see where you may have missed the red flags.
Smiling and making eye contact lets him know you’re open to being approached. Otherwise, you’ll attract guys who don’t care if you’re interested. Or worse, who want you because they think you’re not interested. (And guys, when you smile at a woman, at first she may not realize that you’re smiling at her. So, give her a minute to smile back.)
Have the holidays got you down? Do you wonder what you'll be doing? Or who you'll be with?
The holidays can be hard for everyone. But, they're especially hard if you're single or recently divorced. But, you can find ways to take lemons and make lemonade (or as Oprah says -- lemon pound cake!)
Because the holidays are ripe with opportunities to meet someone. And that’s what I’d love to share with you at my next live Video Chat, How to Date During the Holidays. Check out my video to learn more:
Do you ever wonder why the men you’re really into aren’t that into you? (Or guys, why the women you’re really into aren’t that into you?)
Or why you don’t like the ones who are into you?
It might be that you haven’t met someone who’s right for you yet. And it could be that the guys who aren’t into you have trouble with intimacy and closeness. But, if ALL the men you like aren’t into you. And if you RARELY like the ones who are into you…
It might mean that at some level - you’re also afraid of closeness and commitment.
Just as fear has different types, rational and irrational, love also has different types. The Greeks had four different words for love:
Agape-A deeper sense of “true love.” Total love.
Eros- a passionate love, with sensual desire and longing.
Philia- friendship love. Loyalty to friends and family
Storge-affection as in affection for offspring.
Perhaps you’ve experienced a deep sense of presence while walking alone in nature or in silent meditation—but is it possible to bring this quality of relaxed and open acceptance into our relationships? In this excerpt from his new audio retreat, Eckhart Tolle discusses the challenge of truly meeting another human being—and how to make that connection through the art of presence.
All relationships can be pleasurable when we know how to generate happiness, regardless of what others say and do. Love and prosperity are self-generated, because we are love and prosperity. Because we are love, we do not and cannot get love from anyone, but when we are around people who like us, it is easier to be ourselves (which is love).
Since the holidays are coming up, I thought this might be a good time to talk about our families. We all know that they affect us. But, sometimes, we don't realize how much.
We are all familiar with the ideal of love at first sight, getting married and living happily ever after, until death do us part. At some level we all wish it were true, and maybe even believe it. Recall the movie Jerry Maguire when Tom Cruise says to Renee Zellwegger, “you complete me” – this sums up our culture’s fascination with love and its ability to cure all ills. Faced with this lofty idealism, daily life tosses our marriages onto the ragged shores of reality.
What most of us want— more than anything — is Love. More than money, possessions, fame, and fortune...we want Love. We want Love because, in the depths of our soul, we know that Love is the only thing that can make us happy. Every path we take to find happiness is really a search for Love.
In their new book Wild Attraction: A Ruthlessly Practical Guide to Extraordinary Relationship, Paul and Patricia Richards offer a stunning new relationship model that reveals the effects of subtle energy on love and intimacy. Centered on 59 “Energetic Facts of Life”, the book provides cutting edge advice and tools for experiencing energetically “awakened” romantic relationships and transformational intimacy that works.