Dr. Vondie’s Top 10 Tips to Help You Find Love

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I thought this would be a good time to share my   “Top 10 Tips to Help You Find Love.”   

1. Let yourself heal from your last relationship

It takes time to get your bearings and start trusting again. The hardest part is learning to trust yourself again. It helps when you can look back and see where you may have missed the red flags.

2. Smile* 

Smiling and making eye contact lets him know you’re open to being approached. Otherwise, you’ll attract guys who don’t care if you’re interested. Or worse, who want you because they think you’re not interested.  (And guys, when you smile at a woman, at first she may not realize that you’re smiling at her. So, give her a minute to smile back.)

Have the holidays got you down?  Do you wonder what you'll be doing?  Or who you'll be with? 

The holidays can be hard for everyone.  But, they're especially hard if you're single or recently divorced.  But, you can find ways to take lemons and make lemonade (or as Oprah says -- lemon pound cake!)

Because the holidays are ripe with opportunities to meet someone.  And that’s what I’d love to share with you at my next live Video Chat, How to Date During the Holidays.  Check out my video to learn more:

Do you ever wonder why the men you’re really into aren’t that into you?  (Or guys, why the women you’re really into aren’t that into you?)  

Or why you don’t like the ones who are into you?   

It might be that you haven’t met someone who’s right for you yet.  And it could be that the guys who aren’t into you have trouble with intimacy and closeness.  But, if ALL the men you like aren’t into you.  And if you RARELY like the ones who are into you… 

It might mean that at some level - you’re also afraid of closeness and commitment.  

Are you concerned about how you look in your bathing suit?  Do you worry you don’t look as good as you did last year, or ten or twenty years ago?  Are you struggling with friendships or business ventures that once worked for you, but do not offer the reward they once did?

If so, George Bernard Shaw might show you the door to peace: “The only man I know who behaves sensibly is my tailor; he takes my measurements anew each time he sees me.  The rest go on with their old measurements and expect me to fit them.”