A person who is emotionally imbalanced carries that over into both the work environment and personal relationships. How many of us have had to contend with a controlling, Napoleanic or bullying boss?

I’d like to ask you to take an inventory of the people in your life right now. Most relationships are based on some kind of common interest or the mutual exchange of needs.

Relationship and marriage, according to the Kabbalah, must be based on spirituality. The connection between two people starts with their mutual desire to discover the spiritual realm and actualize the purpose of creation. Here is the philosophy behind love and Marriage, and some interesting ethnicity.

What must one do if one truly intends to make a new beginning? What is our part in fulfilling this promise of Newness latent but hidden in ourselves? We ask these questions in the spirit of the Newness that we hope for because life has shown us, again and again, that we know not their true answers. 

We begin with a short story. It illustrates two spiritual principles we will need to understand with regard to our wish to realize the Ever New Life. Picture in your mind a large mining operation, and just outside the opening to the mine, lined up for quite a ways in front of the paymaster’s table, are a number of people waiting in line to collect their bi-monthly paychecks.  Somewhere in the middle of this line stands a man dreaming of the dollars about to come into his hands. As he waits he envisions all the things he will be able to buy with this money, and the imagined treasures and pleasures soon to be his make waiting in line almost too much to bear. At last his turn arrives. He steps up and holds out his hand. But what’s this?   

Do you ever wonder why the men you’re really into aren’t that into you?  (Or guys, why the women you’re really into aren’t that into you?)  

Or why you don’t like the ones who are into you?   

It might be that you haven’t met someone who’s right for you yet.  And it could be that the guys who aren’t into you have trouble with intimacy and closeness.  But, if ALL the men you like aren’t into you.  And if you RARELY like the ones who are into you… 

It might mean that at some level - you’re also afraid of closeness and commitment.  

We are all familiar with the ideal of love at first sight, getting married and living happily ever after, until death do us part. At some level we all wish it were true, and maybe even believe it. Recall the movie Jerry Maguire when Tom Cruise says to Renee Zellwegger, “you complete me” – this sums up our culture’s fascination with love and its ability to cure all ills. Faced with this lofty idealism, daily life tosses our marriages onto the ragged shores of reality.