All relationships can be pleasurable when we know how to generate happiness, regardless of what others say and do. Love and prosperity are self-generated, because we are love and prosperity. Because we are love, we do not and cannot get love from anyone, but when we are around people who like us, it is easier to be ourselves (which is love).

Again we are moving into the "Holiday" Season. Here in the United States, it starts with Halloween, then Thanksgiving, then Christmas, and ends with New Year's day. It is a ritual that we follow year in and year out.

As I grow older, I often find myself thinking, "Didn't we just do this last year?" It has become somewhat tedious for this old bird. I long ago gave up Halloween as many of you found out with last month's article. Now, there is Thanksgiving. I do celebrate Thanksgiving. I find that it is one of the few holidays that have meaning for me. Granted, I no longer have the luxury of fixing a large family meal. My mother doesn't eat much and I live with hubby and friend who really don't care. The rest of my family are in Oklahoma, mucho miles from here.

This year, I am ordering the full Monty meal from Marie Calendar's. I won't have to baste a drumstick nor peel a spud. I like that. Normally, I would opt for restaurant, but with mom, that is problematic. It takes an hour to get her dressed and downstairs, then into the car. Too much work. Plus, her eating habits have become increasingly bizarre. So it's turkey at home from Marie. Yum.

Soul Solution

Jonathan Parker

Revelatory answers in the search for meaning can seem to be the privilege of only the most evolved, brilliant, or blessed beings.

Dr. Vondie’s Top 10 Tips to Help You Find Love

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, I thought this would be a good time to share my   “Top 10 Tips to Help You Find Love.”   

1. Let yourself heal from your last relationship

It takes time to get your bearings and start trusting again. The hardest part is learning to trust yourself again. It helps when you can look back and see where you may have missed the red flags.

2. Smile* 

Smiling and making eye contact lets him know you’re open to being approached. Otherwise, you’ll attract guys who don’t care if you’re interested. Or worse, who want you because they think you’re not interested.  (And guys, when you smile at a woman, at first she may not realize that you’re smiling at her. So, give her a minute to smile back.)

Accepting relationships as they come to us is one of life’s greater growth opportunities. I’m not just referring to relationships with partners, but also parents, friends, co-workers and pets. In accepting others as they are, we let go of our structured thoughts, parental criticism and brainwashing. This also leads to increased self-acceptance. It inevitably returns to self-love, self-acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude.

Publisher's Description: 

Secrets of Love is for anyone who's experienced the highs and lows of a relationship and wondered where the answers are to lasting, soulful, and fulfilling partnerships. Witness this exploration of the body, mind, and soul of Love through the wise teachings of ancient and contemporary masters woven together into a seamless and enjoyable journey. Hosted by The Today Show's "Love Doc" Dr. Brenda Wade, celebrities Catherine Oxenberg (Dynasty, I Married a Princess) and Casper Van Dien (Starship Troopers) share their story of soul mates united, sex addiction, betrayal, and returning to Love through the gauntlet.