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Nov/Dec 2004 The Role of Anger by Almine

[Anger] is the method our higher self uses to break up the stuck portions either within us or within our interaction with others.  It is essential that we delve into our lives to find our anger’s origins and release its hold over us, as it may flare up as a result of trigger events and injure or alienate the ones we love.

The cosmos expands outwards and contracts inwards like a huge doughnut rolling upon itself. For the cosmos to move over the edge on its journey back to the heart of God—back to the oneness from which we sprang—anger that stems from distorted perception needs to be brought into a more harmonious frequency or emotion.

For emotion that is discordant to be brought into a higher frequency, increased perception is needed. The level of perception determines the emotion and in the same way, emotion also affects perception.

Everything in the cosmos serves a purpose when viewed in the grand scheme of creation, including anger. Its purpose is to break up stagnation or stuck patterns. The part of creation that is the most reluctant to yield to a higher order is what we call the dark—the portions of the Infinite’s being that are as yet unknown. Rage is the result of suppressed light. Thus, when Lucifer and his hosts volunteered to embody the chaos and the unknown, they had to suppress their light, causing great rage to form. This rage can be utilized to break up the density so that those representing the light can turn the unknown into the known (which is light) through their experience of it.

In the same way, our anger is the result of the portions of our lives that haven’t yet yielded insights. It is the method our higher self uses to break up the stuck portions either within us or within our interaction with others. It is essential that we delve into our lives to find our anger’s origins and release its hold over us, as it may flare up as a result of trigger events and injure or alienate the ones we love.

When our anger is the result of physical pain or great fatigue, it arises in a desperate attempt to try to change the situation. Unfortunately, it frequently ends up blindly lashing out at those in our environment, because we can no longer see clearly and our rage becomes indiscriminate. At that point we cannot hear clearly either, because intense anger creates tumultuous internal thoughts. We then end up attacking where it is a waste of energy, much like Don Quixote fighting windmills.

Anger can also surface as a result of stuck patterns of energy or ruts in our relationships. When it serves in this capacity, it will feel like the same old drama playing over and over and even though we have been patiently dealing with it until now, suddenly, it reaches a peak and we find enough is enough. If this occurs, step out of the anger as it surfaces, recognizing its part in the bigger picture and allow it to express––but from this objective point of view. However, it is crucial to direct it at the situation and not the person, so that it doesn’t damage others and warp the interconnectedness of life, causing karma.

As light promoters, we need to cultivate enough discipline to stand back and determine whether expressing anger serves our purpose, which is to extract wisdom from experience. If it doesn’t, we should find a harmless place to vent. Perhaps we are blessed with an understanding friend who will simply listen if we ask: “May I vent?” However, for the friend to try to “fix it” is futile, since we cannot hear properly at that point—only a listening ear is needed. It may also work to vent to a pet, a favorite tree, or an ancestor’s grave.

Whether our anger originates from the need to break up stagnant energy or from the frustration of life’s burdens that makes us afraid we cannot bear it, we must become aware of its origin. Every reaction needs to be turned into a constructive response through perception. Energy is necessary for consciousness, so we need to be frugal and not drain it through wasted emotions. Furthermore, there is an enormous amount of energy tied up in old patterns that no longer serve us.

Any person, or situation, that still brings up painful, or angry, emotions or a knee-jerk reaction, should be carefully examined. Trace it back to the first occurrence where a similar event caused a similar response. Then extract from the experience the core insights by asking these nine questions.

 NINE STEPS OF RELEASING THE PAST

(Note: The first five questions assist us in seeing what is going on. Use the intellect for this part, because it was designed to help us discern what is behind surface appearances.)

 1. What is the lesson?

Look for the lesson that Spirit wishes us to embrace. For example, the lesson may be that we need to speak our truth. It could manifest as laryngitis, or someone may appear to mirror to us that we frequently suppress our voice. He or she may violate our boundaries to get our attention. We need to protect ourselves by voicing our truth that this behavior is unacceptable. Accepting the unacceptable isn’t saintly––it is dysfunctional.

 2. What is the contract?

Everyone who interacts with us has made an agreement prior to this incarnation, to assist with our growth and for us to assist in theirs. They may have agreed to push us over the edge, and we may do likewise for them. Ask, “What is the contract that you and I are playing out?”

It is with great love that many agreed while in the spirit world, to be catalysts as our perpetrators. When we are in balance, there is no growth so it is a signal to the universe to knock us out of balance for the lessons to continue. Thus, we pull relationships into our lives that test us in every way imaginable.

 3. What is the role?

Am I playing the victim? Am I playing the teacher or the student? What role am I playing within this contract? Also, look at the role the other person is playing. For example, we may have a tyrant in our life. It may be our spouse, mother, or boss. Once you establish that, see who you are in relation to that person’s role. Remember, we may change our role at any time because we create our reality.

 4. What is the mirror?

We pull relationships into our life that mirror one of the following things: an aspect of who we are, what we have given away, what we still place judgment on, or what we haven’t developed yet.

For example, if our innocence is gone, we may find ourselves intensely attracted to a young person. If we have given our integrity away, we might fall in love with a missionary who, in our eyes, represents integrity.

Another thing that can be mirrored is that which we judge. If we have problems dealing with people who lie, then we are placing a judgment on them and therefore attract liars.

 

5. What is the gift?

Every person we encounter has come to give us a gift and receive one as well. This applies even with the most casual acquaintance. Ask, “What gift am I supposed to give this person?” It may be something as simple as offering him the gift of unconditional love; or we may recognize something beautiful in him that nobody else has seen. We may genuinely listen to someone and for the first time in years, he feels heard and understood.

 (Note: The last four questions deal with our attitudes surrounding the answers to the first five questions)

6. Can I allow?

This is the point of discerning what has to be allowed, what has to be changed, and finding the courage to act. Imagine yourself as the water in a river. If a rock is in front of you, should you oppose it or flow around the rock? We have masterfully created every situation in our life, even the rock. Is this a test of flexibility and surrender? Or is this a battle for us to fight? A battle is only worth fighting if the stakes are worth having. If you have already learnt the lesson, no need to re-fight this battle.

 7. Can I accept?

We cannot accept the painful things that happen to us unless we begin to see the perfection underlying the web of appearances. A common belief is that we were placed on the wheel of reincarnation, suffering lifetime after lifetime, until we have lived enough lives to become perfect. God created us perfectly with the ability to be a creator. Thoughts combined with feeling create our environment. The heart is like a microphone, the stronger the emotions, the stronger the universe’s response to manifest our desires. But the universe doesn’t discriminate; it will manifest whatever we think—positive or negative. It is important that we accept that we have co-created the situation, which removes any feelings of having things done “to” us.

 8. Can I release?

To release is to let go of the energy surrounding the person or event. If we don’t release, we keep it alive by feeding it energy through thoughts (sometimes subconsciously).

Even if someone has violated us in some way, working through these steps to gain the larger insights behind the appearance, changes the focus to an eternal perspective. It reveals the perfection underlying the appearances.

 9. Can I be grateful?

If we have gone through the previous eight steps and can feel true gratitude for the insights gained, it raises consciousness. Gratitude is a powerful attitude that can assist us to transfigure into a higher state of being. It changes stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

If we have completed the first eight steps and don’t feel gratitude, going through them again to gain even deeper insights will help.

It is time for a more comprehensive understanding by the light promoters of what we deem our “undesirable” pieces, or emotions. Too many believe they fulfill their part by focusing only on light and love. But over-polarizing towards the light is as detrimental to the evolution of awareness as over-polarizing towards the dark. In both instances stagnation occurs and evolution of awareness is retarded.

It is part of the universal law of compensation that we strengthen that which we oppose. This applies not only to traits within ourselves, but similarly to traits in others. On the other hand,  to acknowledge the perfection which underlys appearances surrounding anger, lessens its hold on us and provides increased perception. Through perception comes transfiguration until eventually rage turns to joy.

 

©Spiritual Journeys LLC 2004

 ALMINE is a Toltec three-pronged Nagual who brought back the information about the bands of compassion after her entry into the Void. Author of A Life of Miracles, Almine lays out a roadmap to discover your innate personal power.  PMB #136, 974 Breckinridge Lane, Louisville, KY 40207 (502) 895-1640  • spiritualjourneys.com.

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