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Let’s move right past the idea of “looking for love” into finding love. We spend so much of our time looking for love in the people around us. We want their approval, their kindness, their appreciation, their loving friendship. There is nothing wrong with wanting these things. The problem is where we look for them.

We spend so much time looking for the “right” person to be our romantic partner, a person to be in love with. Where will we find this “right” person? How can we tell when we have found them? Then, how do we keep them in our lives?

These are very human questions. We have a human need to love and be loved. The world is full of loving people. Do you believe this? More importantly, are you one of them? Of all the questions, this last one is the one that must be answered first, before we can answer the others.

You see, the question isn’t really even about finding the right person or people. It is about being the right person. It should come as no surprise to know we won’t find anything outside of ourselves that we haven’t already found inside. When we look inside of us, do we love what we find there? If we want people to love us, shouldn’t we be worth loving?

Love doesn’t begin with other people. Love is how we express our own true being. We are all worth loving––there really isn’t a question of deserving to be loved on a spiritual level. On a human level, we create love around us to the degree that we release and reveal the love that we have inside us to others.

We create love around us by being loving. It is as simple and as complicated as that. When you do a loving act, or even before that, when you think a loving thought, at that moment, you have created more love in the world. As you create more of this love around you, you find that you are surrounded by loving people. Perhaps they were always there, and you are seeing them differently. Perhaps new people come into your life, who are attracted by your loving attitude.

If all this seems too simple to be true, test it out for yourself. Pick a day and choose to be as loving as possible for that whole day. Speak kind words, smile at people, show your appreciation and approval. Then notice how people respond. With this temporary test, you are creating more love in your life than was there the day before. The results might also be temporary, but they will be noticeable. Think what would happen it you did this once a week! What would happen if you did this all of the time?

We find friends, by being a friend. We find love, by being loving. Our search for love is successful when we find it first and always within ourselves.

© 2001, Donna Metcalfe

DONNA METCALFE is the owner of Good Scents, a metaphysical bookstore in Redlands, CA. Her book: Collected Works: a book for the Eclectic Spirit, a collection of her essays is now available at Good Scents and other fine bookstores!

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